Have you ever had someone try to use your sin to keep their sin in place? What is happening is they are using your life and your sin as a filter to keep the conviction of God and the need to change out of their thinking. As long as they can say you are doing something wrong it seems to lessen the need for them to make a change in their life. Here is what Jesus said in Matthew 7:3 “And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own?4 How can you think of saying to your friend, ‘Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye?5 Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye.
If we continue to use others' sins to keep us from dealing with ours, we will never get things right as they should be. This close and very deep relationship we have with our Savior forces us to look deep into our own lives and the only way to lessen that gaze is to bring other's sins into the picture or put a "Filter" of their sins to keep us from dealing with the problem one on one with Jesus. This filter is an age-old problem that stemmed from very wrong religious practices and Jesus hit it "head-on."
The order should be for us to get real with the Lord and look into His holiness and He will reveal the problem and then the solution. If we try to use someone else's problems to filter out that real look at our sin, then the effect will be no change. God is listening and wants to help and that help involves showing us our real selves and helping our real selves, so don't run from the Father. Run to the Father!! The story below illustrates very well that God is our safety net, but we must turn to Him and not through someone else.
During the building of the Golden Gate Bridge over San Francisco Bay, construction fell badly behind schedule because several workers had accidentally fallen from the scaffolding to their deaths. Engineers and administrators could find no solution to the costly delays. Finally, someone suggested a gigantic net be hung under the bridge to catch any who fell. Finally in spite of the enormous cost, the engineers opted for the net. After it was installed, progress was hardly interrupted. A worker or two fell into the net but were saved. Ultimately, all the time lost to fear was regained by replacing fear with faith in the net. As we paid nothing for God's eternal love and nothing for the Son of His love, and nothing for His Spirit and our grace and faith, and nothing for our eternal rest...What an astonishing thought it will be to think of the unmeasurable difference between our deservings and our receivings. O, how free was all this love, and how free is this enjoyed glory...So then let "Deserved" not be written on the floor of hell but on the door of heaven and life.
The Pilgrimage Continues